Most Men Don't Know How to Approach Women

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Have you ever wondered why so many female friends can recommend you as "great catch" but you have no girlfriend? You might be surprised to learn that most guys are afraid to approach women, and this plays a key role in why a lot of them are not only single, but lack the companionship they want. Often, these same guys may be very comfortable with women in general, but these women are usually introduced by friends, at social gatherings, and at work, so these situations don't really count because these instances aren't usually intended to land a woman in bed or bring her to the altar. For the doubters out there, consider that most of these guys, and you may be one of them, have plenty of female contacts who consider them great "friends" even though most of these are looking for companionship, not friendship.

Ask most of these single guys why they aren't dating someone and chances are they will tell you that they simply cannot approach women, particularly strangers. Okay, most will probably not admit to this because many don't know it themselves. As humans, we expect appreciation and we have been raised on fairy tales and romance, believing that we do not need to approach women because our true love, or women, will approach us... if we are worthy, of course.

In reality, a lot of guys fail miserably when it comes to finding new women. Our insecurities rush to the surface and take control. We concoct a list that could stretch a mile long for why we should not approach women. Sound familiar? If not yet, consider the excuses: she surely has a boyfriend; she won't talk to me; she's too good-looking for me; she probably has a line of guys waiting outside her door at night, why would she pick me; I don't have money, a good job, I couldn't possibly win in a situation like this; just forget it. The list continues, by the way!

Our fear about women turns out to be hard-wired. At least that is one theory floating around out there, and it dates back to pre-historic times. The theory has some merits and is supported by the study of most other social animals. Throw a new male into a pack of chimps and tensions will arise as they compete for a particular female. So, if we fear conflict with potential boyfriends or other interested parties, why would we approach women at all? Why not lay low and let the love come to us?

The problem with letting women find us is that, for the most part, they don't. If we want to find the right woman, we need to be more active in the search. See, while women's rights have clearly advanced politically, legally, and professionally, they haven't really advance socially. Think about dowries and arranged marriages for example. While they may not be as commonplace as they were a hundred years ago, they still exist and remain a vibrant aspect of many of today's cultures.

For most of us where a dowry is not everyday, a lot of women know that they control whether to allow us into their lives. They have the power to reject or welcome us. This control disappears once they let us "in." In fact they lose control over most decisions and take a co-pilot seat in their everyday routines.

So how do win a woman's approval and convince her to not reject us? To start, we must get comfortable with how we can and should approach women. As well, we need to accept that what our caveman ancestors encountered a thousand years ago no longer exists (for the most part). Once we do these things, we will be well-prepared to seek out the right women.

Yes, it may seem like a tough obstacle to overcome. Worse, even if you master how to approach women, this is just the first phase of the relationship! There is much more to learn, such as how to keep her!

About the Author

Daryl Duke provides pro-bono advice and material to males who want to Find, Attract, and Keep The Right Woman. Be sure to read his Blog. Grab a totally unique version of this article from the Uber Article Directory

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<h1>Most Men Don't Know How to Approach Women</h1> <p> Have you ever wondered why so many female friends can recommend you as "great catch" but you have no girlfriend? You might be surprised to learn that most guys are afraid to approach women, and this plays a key role in why a lot of them are not only single, but lack the companionship they want. Often, these same guys may be very comfortable with women in general, but these women are usually introduced by friends, at social gatherings, and at work, so these situations don't really count because these instances aren't usually intended to land a woman in bed or bring her to the altar. For the doubters out there, consider that most of these guys, and you may be one of them, have plenty of female contacts who consider them great "friends" even though most of these are looking for companionship, not friendship.<br /><br />Ask most of these single guys why they aren't dating someone and chances are they will tell you that they simply cannot approach women, particularly strangers. Okay, most will probably not admit to this because many don't know it themselves. As humans, we expect appreciation and we have been raised on fairy tales and romance, believing that we do not need to approach women because our true love, or women, will approach us... if we are worthy, of course.<br /><br />In reality, a lot of guys fail miserably when it comes to finding new women. Our insecurities rush to the surface and take control. We concoct a list that could stretch a mile long for why we should not approach women. Sound familiar? If not yet, consider the excuses: she surely has a boyfriend; she won't talk to me; she's too good-looking for me; she probably has a line of guys waiting outside her door at night, why would she pick me; I don't have money, a good job, I couldn't possibly win in a situation like this; just forget it. The list continues, by the way!<br /><br />Our fear about women turns out to be hard-wired. At least that is one theory floating around out there, and it dates back to pre-historic times. The theory has some merits and is supported by the study of most other social animals. Throw a new male into a pack of chimps and tensions will arise as they compete for a particular female. So, if we fear conflict with potential boyfriends or other interested parties, why would we approach women at all? Why not lay low and let the love come to us?<br /><br />The problem with letting women find us is that, for the most part, they don't. If we want to find the right woman, we need to be more active in the search. See, while women's rights have clearly advanced politically, legally, and professionally, they haven't really advance socially. Think about dowries and arranged marriages for example. While they may not be as commonplace as they were a hundred years ago, they still exist and remain a vibrant aspect of many of today's cultures. <br /><br />For most of us where a dowry is not everyday, a lot of women know that they control whether to allow us into their lives. They have the power to reject or welcome us. This control disappears once they let us "in." In fact they lose control over most decisions and take a co-pilot seat in their everyday routines. <br /><br />So how do win a woman's approval and convince her to not reject us? To start, we must get comfortable with how we can and should approach women. As well, we need to accept that what our caveman ancestors encountered a thousand years ago no longer exists (for the most part). Once we do these things, we will be well-prepared to seek out the right women.<br /><br />Yes, it may seem like a tough obstacle to overcome. Worse, even if you master how to approach women, this is just the first phase of the relationship! There is much more to learn, such as how to keep her! <h2>About the Author</h2> Daryl Duke provides pro-bono advice and material to males who want to <a href="http://www.seductanywoman.com">Find, Attract, and Keep The Right Woman</a>. Be sure to read his <a href="http://www.squidoo.com/xml/syndicate_lens/how-to-approach-women-1">Blog</a>. Grab a totally unique version of this article from the Uber <a href='http://www.uberarticles.com/home.php?id=250951&p=205'>Article Directory</a> </p>

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