Online Personal Ads - How to Talk to Women

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I'm an Online Dating Coach, and many of the ads I see on the Internet are shocking! There are some (often written by guys looking for women) who write their ads like they're trying to sell used furniture in the classified section of their daily papers! The women's ads are often just as bad - often containing very little substantial information - or the ads just come across as demanding.

Take a look at this example. This ad was designed by a woman in her early 40's -

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"I love to talk about books that have struck you bizarre or interesting. I do want someone to hang out with, and must enjoy talking about politics, books, places and wine. Must love chocolate!"

Communication is apparently high up on this woman's priority list (how nice!) Whether "talking about everything" is also nice would depend, I suppose, on what "everything" might include. It's hard to say what she's referring to when she talks about "bizarre" books, although Stephen King novels come to mind for me. I'm not sure how many guys love chocolate, but for the sake of maintaining positive relationships, I imagine a lot of guys would go along with that one - assuming, of course, that "bizarre" books don't stand in the way first!

It would be interesting to see which types of guys reply to this ad!

Have a look at this next online dating ad - it's from a young man who describes himself as the "Tattoo Teddy Bear" -

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"i just want a good girl that knows how to treat a man with respect."

This online dating ad gets right to the point, doesn't it.

It's at moments like this when I can really understand why men and women just don't understand each other!

One of the most important concepts I'd like to convey is this: When you sit down to write your Online Dating Ads, always write them just like you're having a regular conversation!

In other words, here's what NOT to do:

1. Never write an online dating ad like you'd write an advertisement for a newspaper.

2. Don't talk in a condescending manner. Be polite and treat everyone like your equal!

3. Do not - under any circumstances - submit a 10 or 15-word ad for Online Dating!

Instead, here are some of the things that you absolutely should be doing --

1. In your online dating ads, talk about yourself in such a way as to create an image of yourself as a real person in the mind of your reader. You might want to include some of your personal interests and hobbies - and what you enjoy doing on a date.

2. Using colorful, imaginative language, and paint a picture of how she or he will feel when you're together on a date. Use examples, anticipate questions, and be upbeat and optimistic. Give your reader a sense of what being with you is like - and describe that in some detail when writing your dating ad.

3. Talk about some of your best qualities. (Are you warm and friendly? A good listener? Are you compassionate and understanding?)

4. What's the benefit (i.e., the "payoff") for answering your ad right now? And finally...

5. Don't forget to spell-check your ad before you submit it!

If you follow the guidelines I've suggested above, you'll be on your way to a very successful Internet Dating experience!

About the Author

Want to meet beautiful women online today? Or sexy men? Take advantage of this amazing Offer: Get three FREE online personal ads and a FREE Online Dating Profile! Visit my Online Dating site today at http://www.online-dating-coach.com

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<h1>Online Personal Ads - How to Talk to Women</h1> <p> I'm an Online Dating Coach, and many of the ads I see on the Internet are shocking! There are some (often written by guys looking for women) who write their ads like they're trying to sell used furniture in the classified section of their daily papers! The women's ads are often just as bad - often containing very little substantial information - or the ads just come across as demanding.<br /><br />Take a look at this example. This ad was designed by a woman in her early 40's -<br /><br />professional who enjoys open conversation - 41<br /><br />"I love to talk about books that have struck you bizarre or interesting. I do want someone to hang out with, and must enjoy talking about politics, books, places and wine. Must love chocolate!"<br /><br />Communication is apparently high up on this woman's priority list (how nice!) Whether "talking about everything" is also nice would depend, I suppose, on what "everything" might include. It's hard to say what she's referring to when she talks about "bizarre" books, although Stephen King novels come to mind for me. I'm not sure how many guys love chocolate, but for the sake of maintaining positive relationships, I imagine a lot of guys would go along with that one - assuming, of course, that "bizarre" books don't stand in the way first!<br /><br />It would be interesting to see which types of guys reply to this ad!<br /><br />Have a look at this next online dating ad - it's from a young man who describes himself as the "Tattoo Teddy Bear" -<br /><br />tattoo teddy bear - 29<br /><br />"i just want a good girl that knows how to treat a man with respect."<br /><br />This online dating ad gets right to the point, doesn't it.<br /><br />It's at moments like this when I can really understand why men and women just don't understand each other!<br /><br />One of the most important concepts I'd like to convey is this: When you sit down to write your Online Dating Ads, always write them just like you're having a regular conversation!<br /><br />In other words, here's what NOT to do:<br /><br />1. Never write an online dating ad like you'd write an advertisement for a newspaper.<br /><br />2. Don't talk in a condescending manner. Be polite and treat everyone like your equal!<br /><br />3. Do not - under any circumstances - submit a 10 or 15-word ad for Online Dating!<br /><br />Instead, here are some of the things that you absolutely should be doing --<br /><br />1. In your online dating ads, talk about yourself in such a way as to create an image of yourself as a real person in the mind of your reader. You might want to include some of your personal interests and hobbies - and what you enjoy doing on a date.<br /><br />2. Using colorful, imaginative language, and paint a picture of how she or he will feel when you're together on a date. Use examples, anticipate questions, and be upbeat and optimistic. Give your reader a sense of what being with you is like - and describe that in some detail when writing your dating ad.<br /><br />3. Talk about some of your best qualities. (Are you warm and friendly? A good listener? Are you compassionate and understanding?)<br /><br />4. What's the benefit (i.e., the "payoff") for answering your ad right now? And finally...<br /><br />5. Don't forget to spell-check your ad before you submit it!<br /><br />If you follow the guidelines I've suggested above, you'll be on your way to a very successful Internet Dating experience! <h2>About the Author</h2> Want to <a href="http://www.online-dating-coach.com">meet beautiful women online</a> today? Or sexy men? Take advantage of this amazing Offer: Get three <a href="http://www.online-dating-coach.com">FREE online personal ads</a> and a FREE Online Dating Profile! Visit my Online Dating site today at http://www.online-dating-coach.com </p>

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