Divorce: the Separation of Closely Connected Things

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Divorce is defined in the dictionary as "the separation of things that go together," although we commonly refer to it is the break-up of a marriage. Most people who are beginning the process of divorce find that it's quite a shock. Part of that shock comes from realizing that they were wrong about being so sure about the everlasting status of their marriage.

Some acquaintances who had gone through divorce were astounded by their feelings of failure. Others, such as me for example, had a different reaction to divorce than those with whom I conversed. The autonomy gained by ending my marriage was something I had thought of and wanted for years before telling my husband. When we finally had the discussion, I was not the one who was shocked. My husband was the one who was surprised by the thought of divorce.

The feeling of failure was because I thought I should have recognized before we married that my husband and I were actually not "things" that should go together. If we had both known this fact, we would have saved our families and ourselves a lot of misery and money.

My husband and I did not have any children so our divorce was probably different from divorced spouses who did. I admit that having no children may have had an influence on my feelings allowing me to feel a sense of relief once it was finalized instead of feelings of failure and shock.

I have gathered from many conversations with friends who have children and are divorced that the separation is tougher on the kids than on the couple. That is because divorce significantly impacts the children who are not involved in that decision.

When two people decide to get married, they are usually so sure they belong together and have confidence in the success of their marriage. Of course, this doesn't include people who marry for financial or immigration purposes. The reality is that you can't know for sure if you belong with someone until you actually live with them. That's something I learned from my mother. She used to say that you never really know someone until you work or live with them.

After reading the dictionary definition of divorce, I do agree that people marry another person because they feel they belong together. But the reason for divorce is that once they live together and maybe even have a family, they may find out that they don't, in fact, go together, which results in divorce.

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<h1>Divorce: the Separation of Closely Connected Things</h1> <p> Divorce is defined in the dictionary as "the separation of things that go together," although we commonly refer to it is the break-up of a marriage. Most people who are beginning the process of divorce find that it's quite a shock. Part of that shock comes from realizing that they were wrong about being so sure about the everlasting status of their marriage.<br /><br />Some acquaintances who had gone through divorce were astounded by their feelings of failure. Others, such as me for example, had a different reaction to divorce than those with whom I conversed. The autonomy gained by ending my marriage was something I had thought of and wanted for years before telling my husband. When we finally had the discussion, I was not the one who was shocked. My husband was the one who was surprised by the thought of divorce.<br /><br />The feeling of failure was because I thought I should have recognized before we married that my husband and I were actually not "things" that should go together. If we had both known this fact, we would have saved our families and ourselves a lot of misery and money.<br /><br />My husband and I did not have any children so our divorce was probably different from divorced spouses who did. I admit that having no children may have had an influence on my feelings allowing me to feel a sense of relief once it was finalized instead of feelings of failure and shock.<br /><br />I have gathered from many conversations with friends who have children and are divorced that the separation is tougher on the kids than on the couple. That is because divorce significantly impacts the children who are not involved in that decision.<br /><br />When two people decide to get married, they are usually so sure they belong together and have confidence in the success of their marriage. Of course, this doesn't include people who marry for financial or immigration purposes. The reality is that you can't know for sure if you belong with someone until you actually live with them. That's something I learned from my mother. She used to say that you never really know someone until you work or live with them.<br /><br />After reading the dictionary definition of divorce, I do agree that people marry another person because they feel they belong together. But the reason for divorce is that once they live together and maybe even have a family, they may find out that they don't, in fact, go together, which results in divorce. <h2>About the Author</h2> TruslerLegal.com can make your hunt for <a href="http://www.truslerlegal.com/">top divorce lawyers in Austin</a> much simpler. If you need to learn the ins and outs of divorce, you can get a free <a href="http://www.truslerlegal.com/divorceguide.htm">Austin Divorce Guide Audio CD</a> online any time. </p>

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